Pastor’s Wife
Public life, lonely life
She is in the public eye yet lonely. They all see her but don’t feel her. They talk to her but don’t hear her. They associate with her, but they do not identify with her.
They notice her but are not mindful of her. She is expected to be strong, yet the strong have weak moments. She is expected to be perfect, yet we all have flaws. She lives under the expectations of everyone and under the shadow of her husband the Pastor.
To the Pastor
Do not focus all the attention on the church and forget your wife. Be in touch with her feelings, and her emotions.
Appreciate and acknowledge her both at the pulpit and in conversations
Do not dismiss any gift she may have, do not belittle it either. Do not push her beyond her gift or anointing but let her flourish where she is gifted and anointed
To the Pastor’s Wife
Practice self-care. Take care of your mind, body and spirit.
Feed your spirit by reading the word of God and investing in prayer.
For physical health, keep a healthy and a balanced life.
For your mental health have boundaries, engage in rest, recreation and relaxation
In moments where your patience may be tested,
avoid any emotions or words that you will regret later
respond vs react to situations
in situations where you need counsel seek professional counsel or from a fellow minster
To the Congregation
It’s little things that count. Offer her a smile, a handshake, a hug
Let her know you are thinking about her and praying for her
Ask her where she needs help and follow through with actions by helping her
Rose Shiku
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